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Supplemental Materials for Chai Mitzvah
Topic #4, Interpersonal Relationships


Interpersonal relationships between parents, children, and friends are complex and evolving, involving tensions around favoritism, competition for attention, and tensions between generations.

 

These interesting and varied sources will help you further explore the relationships of family and friends.

 

 

This  Harvard study reveals that strong social networks are the best predictor of life span and happiness over money, and fame.

The Secrets to a Happy Life, From a Harvard Study

 

 

Anita Salzman Silvert, formerly of Chai Mitzvah, addresses the topic of how we create relationships with our children to sustain them long after we have any meaningful control over the details of their lives.

Parent as a Verb: Our Adult Children

 

 

The sages advise us to study Torah lishma—“for its own sake”—rather than to impress others with our scholarship. A paradox of parenting is that if we love our children for their own sake rather than for their achievements, it’s more likely that they will reach their true potential.

 

 

From measuring teens’ internet usage to finding out what devices they own, Pew Research Center has been examining the digital lives of teenagers for over a decade. 

The latest report focuses on how teens, who often live tech-saturated lives, develop and sustain friendships in the digital age, including where they meet, communicate and spend time with friends.

Teen Friendships in the Digital Age

 

 

As a member of the sandwich generation, Charles Passy has come to realize that his daily “burden” is also a daily reminder of how blessed he truly is.

Six Lessons for the Sandwich Generation

 

Chai Mitzvah

  106 Timberwood Road

  West Hartford, CT 06117

  860.206.8363

  info@chaimitzvah.org

Sharing the Journey....

NOVEMBER 2016

Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life.
Happy Thanksgiving from the Chai Mitzvah family. 

CHAIlighting Teens

Thirty seven Chai Mitzvah teen groups are running this year, and each one is passionate - full of new ideas and new ways to express them. October's topic was Rites of Passage.  Rabbi Moshe Rudin tells of a new Rite of Passage created by eighth graders at Adath Shalom in Morris Plains:

 

"Our teens designed a Jewish ritual for voting for the first time...

1. Get a sticker that says "בחרת"  (bacharti, I chose) and wear it.

2. Say the Bracha "Baruch... asher natan lanu democracy."

3. Wear a kippa like the one above at the voting booth.

4. Pray for our country!

CHAZAK CHAZAK"


WELCOME NEW GROUPS

 

We welcome three new groups to the Chai Mitzvah family:

 

Beth Sholom B'nai Israel
Manchester CT
 
Beth Am Women/ Congregation Beth Am
Los Altos Hills CA
 
Interfaith Families Project of Washington DC
Rockville Maryland
 
Join more than 100 groups
that are running this year!
 

 

 

Chai Mitzvah on the Road

Ilana Bernstein and Audrey Lichter at the Jewish Federations of North America General Assembly in Washington DC

Nina Woldin at the Jewish Educators Assembly in Los Angeles, CA

Audrey Lichter and Ilana Bernstein were among the more than 3,000 attendees from 150 communities at the Jewish Federations of North America General Assembly in Washington, D.C. The sessions were wonderful learning opportunities and the most valuable part of the conference for us was to meet new people and show off our fantastic engagement program.

 

Nina Woldin joined 300 educators from Conservative synagogues around the country at the 65th Annual Conference of the Jewish Educators Assembly in Los Angeles, hosting a table and holding a Chai Mitzvah study session.

A Special TIME in Georgia
 
Marsha Fish and the 14 others in her Chai Mitzvah group at Congregation Beth Shalom in Atlanta had a beautiful experience this past year and still can't stop talking about it. They have another group going this year!
 
At their graduation ceremonies at Shabbat services this past month, all 15 of them participated in the service.
 
The group commissioned an artist to create a clock depicting the many facets of their Chai Mitzvah experience and donated it to the synagogue. The artist was Robin Singer an art teacher at the Epstein School in Atlanta, GA.
 

Supplemental Sources: Individual and Community

Ted Talk Monica Lewinsky: The Price of Shame

https://www.ted.com/talks/monica_lewinsky_the_price_of_shame

"Public shaming as a blood sport has to stop," says Monica Lewinsky. In 1998, she says, “I was Patient Zero of losing a personal reputation on a global scale almost instantaneously.” Today, the kind of online public shaming she went through has become constant — and can turn deadly. In a brave talk, she takes a hard look at our online culture of humiliation, and asks for a different way.

 

Eli Talk Seven Habits of Highly United Jews: David Bratslavsky

http://elitalks.org/7-habits-highly-united-jews

How often are we conscious of our group identification as Jews?

How can we use it to create real unity and work toward shared goals together? David Bratslavsky answers these questions by exploring by exploring concrete ways to cultivate unity and peoplehood, laying out examples of successes froma ll areas of Jewish life and detailing the benefits of bridging the gaps that divide us.

 

Eli Talk The Dignity of Difference: A Place for Everyone at the Shabbat Table

http://elitalks.org/dignity-difference-place-everyone-shabbat-table

 

Are our Jewish institutions reflective of the diversity we see in the Jewish community? Abby Knopp challenges the audience to recognize diversity within their own communities and questions whether our Jewish institutions are as inclusive as they could be. Ultimately she asserts that individuals and professionals can do more to practice the Jewish values of hachnasat orchim (hospitality) and ahavat Yisrael (love of fellow Jews).

 

How to Accept and Embrace Disagreement

http://www.wikihow.com/Accept-and-Embrace-Disagreement

Accepting and embracing disagreement is difficult for some people who seek harmony and cooperation all of the time. Yet, without dissent and differing opinions, the world would be a very bland and conformist place. Embracing disagreement is a valuable way of learning new ideas, tempering your own ideas into workable outcomes, and reaching solutions that everyone can benefit from. Learn how to change your perspective about disagreement and your interactions with others will improve greatly.

 

 

http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/disagreement

Quotes from great authors thinkers and everyday people on disagreements. These will resonate with the texts on tochecha you will study.

Be Part of the Global Conversation

What is Chai Mitzvah? Chai Mitzvah is a unique Jewish engagement initiative for exploring and developing Jewish living.  Participants commit to group study once a month for nine months with a set curriculum.  On their own, they explore an independent study, bring a new ritual into their lives, and engage in a social action activity. Through this integrated, experiential approach, participants define what their own meaningful Jewish lives look like, and deepen their connections to their congregations and their communities.

Chai Mitzvah

106 Timberwood Road

West Hartford, Connecticut 06117

 

Contact Us

info@chaimitzvah.org

860.206.8363

 

Give Some Thought to Giving: Supplemental Materials for Chai Mitzvah's Topic #2, Tzedakah/Philanthropy

Give Some Thought to Giving: 

Supplemental Materials for Chai Mitzvah
Topic #2, Tzedakah/Philanthropy


Donating to the poor is not a prerogative act, but rather an expected act of each and every Jew. Jewish law has set clear priorities in terms of giving food, clothing, shelter, and medicine to fulfill the obligation to save life and preserve health. Jewish law is concerned with meeting the needs of the poor and at the same time safeguarding the dignity of those in need.

 

These interesting and varied sources will help you give some thought to giving.

 

Have I given more than I've taken, or taken more than I've given?  Rabbi Shmuly Yanklowitz examines this questions by reflecting on his own experience with kidney donation.

How Far Will You Go to Give? Judaism and Organ Donation

 

Is altruism the best reason for giving? Yossi Prager argues that, in fact, selfishness is a better motivator for giving.

Yossi Prager: What's in it for Me? Selfishness in Philanthropy

 

Bill and Melinda Gates on why they give: 

 

Classic Danny Siegel

10 Quotes about Tzedakah from All Kinds of Sources

 

Wonderful organization that encourages people to give Jewishly and provides many resources for doing so:

The Jewish Funders Network

 

 Interesting compilation of statistics from the Pew Research Organization on Income Inequality:

10 Facts About American Workers

 

Chai Mitzvah

  106 Timberwood Road

  West Hartford, CT 06117

  860.206.8363

  info@chaimitzvah.org

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Chai Mitzvah: Checking In

Let's get started!

Thank you for registering with Chai Mitzvah to begin a group this fall. It's time to start forming your groups.

 

We want to let you know that we are available to help with any questions that you may have.

THINGS TO DO:

 

a personal invitation

Chai Mitzvah is great way to bring together a group of people in a more meaningful way. Consider inviting your board or committee members to form a group. Or invite some empty-nesters or others who may be on the periphery of involvement to join your "inner-circle". 

 

celebrating 100 groups

We are so happy that you are participating in the Chai Mitzvah program. You have joined with over 100 groups, nation-wide, who are using the Chai Mitzvah program as a tool for Jewish engagement!

Chai Mitzvah: Checking In

Let's get started!

Thank you for registering with Chai Mitzvah to begin a group this fall. It's time to start forming your groups.

 

We want to let you know that we are available to help with any questions that you may have.

THINGS TO DO:

 

a personal invitation

Chai Mitzvah is great way to bring together a group of people in a more meaningful way. Consider inviting your board or committee members to form a group. Or invite some empty-nesters or others who may be on the periphery of involvement to join your "inner-circle". 

 

celebrating 100 groups

We are so happy that you are participating in the Chai Mitzvah program. You have joined with over 100 groups, nation-wide, who are using the Chai Mitzvah program as a tool for Jewish engagement!

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